I wasn’t planning on going here, but I guess that I will. Again, I’m not an expert on anything, but I do believe in the possibility of restoration and wholeness in every area of our lives.
The issue isn’t just Ted Haggard or homosexuality, the issue is brokenness expressed sexually. And that my friends is a human struggle, not a gay-only struggle.
Bryan Riley said this in his comment to the previous post, “I can definitely see in my life a story of redemption in this area.” The reason to continue writing about this is to offer the hope of redemption to those who experience pain in this aspect of their life.
After giving a very basic talk about sex and intimacy at a women’s retreat, I was saddened at just how widespread the pain is surrounding sex. And most of the people sharing their hurt believe that they are the only one.
Over the years in praying for people, I am marked by the pain that others have endured in their lives. There are pictures imprinted on my mind of people whose lives are scarred with the brokenness that they have experienced, things that only Jesus can heal.
These are just a few of the faces of the people I see…
- The young girl who “puts out” in order to prove her desirability and worth.
- The woman who has to heal and make sense of why “daddy” used to crawl into bed with her.
- The wife who endures sex because she has never experienced desire for her husband.
- The woman wearing an extra 100 pounds to hide herself and remove the risk of being attractive.
- The man at the church altar every week repenting, living under the yoke of shame of his addiction to pornography.
- The woman who leaves the room whenever the topic of sex comes up because she feels like such a failure.
- The person who became the victim of the neighbor boy’s curiosity, another the victim of an uncle’s perversion.
And the list goes on and on…
Whether it is your own fault or someone else’s that you became broken sexually, you can be restored.
So let me repeat a couple of things from the previous post that you might have skipped over because you thought I was talking about homosexuals.
We are all broken in areas of intimacy. The underlying sense of separation, rejection, and abandonment is the nature of the curse and man’s original fall. This brokenness can be expressed in many different ways, but it is often expressed sexually.
Shame has never been an effective motivation for transformation. In fact, it is often the greatest hindrance to true freedom from the bondage of sin. As we focus on the sin in our lives, we become hopeless in our inability to will ourselves to change. Yet as we focus on Jesus, he can bring healing and change in the process of restoring our hearts to the wholeness that He intends for us.
For whatever pain you experience in your life around the topic of sex, there is hope for healing. Broken sexuality is only a symptom of the brokenness in our soul and the brokenness that we bring into our relationships.
We will find that as the wounds are healed the symptoms of how we mismanage the pain and needs in our lives can be cured. God is as anxious to bring healing in this area of our lives as He is to restore our hearts to wholeness in every way.
Jesus has a specific answer for your situation.