Last Saturday, after a busy week including the funeral, I spent the day doing cleaning chores my kids were supposed to have done during the week. Fuming a little, I knew I needed a new strategy. Everything must change!
We have a pretty good plan for keeping the house clean. It involves minimal chores from everyone per day and picking up after oneself. It works great until someone quits doing their part, which tends to happen the busier I get.
My most-guilty child (smile – he’s 6’2″ tall) for not doing chores or picking up his stuff hates being told what to do. The problem is, without being told what to do, he will not do it. He doesn’t seem to get that if he policed himself, he could avoid the
I hate being the enforcer. I am not that good at it. I am busy, forgetful, and easily distracted. I would prefer if everyone just did what they already know they are supposed to do without me having to enforce the rules.
Last night, after a really busy week, I felt the same way when I returned to my blog. Scrolling through lengthy comments, many off-topic to the original posts, some overly harsh to other people who comment here, I was disappointed. It did not feel like a friendly conversation that I would want to participate in.
I don’t like blogs with lots of rules. I tend to think of my blog like the dining table in my kitchen where I invite people to pull up a chair and visit. This has worked well for me for several years. I haven’t policed things tightly. I think there was one comment in over 2 years that I deleted because of language.
Last night, I became the enforcer. I didn’t like it, but I skimmed and deleted probably a dozen comments. Perhaps some of them did not deserve to be deleted, but I did not read them all carefully enough to give them the benefit of the doubt.
If they were pages long, seemed off-topic, or felt challenging towards another poster, I deleted them. If you feel a comment of yours was deleted unfairly, I am sorry. If a comment of yours was deleted, it does not mean that you are not welcome here, but I would appreciate it if you would respect the conversations that are occurring without dominating them.
Am I going to come up with a long list of comment rules? I hope I don’t have to.
A few requests though…
- Please keep your comments related to the post.
- If you address another commenter, be over-the-top courteous.
- If your comments are book length, please blog them at your blog.
It is really tedious to scroll through multiple comments that are several screen lengths long. I love conversations, but usually after a couple of paragraphs, it is more of a sermon. When you have post-length comments, you should probably give them the space they deserve at your blog.
I am sorry that I have not been able to participate in the discussions much this week. It has just been one of those weeks.