Interestingly enough, the ones leaving churches are not necessarily flaky and immature. They are mostly long-time members who were involved in church leadership.
Scott Williams recently expressed this so well:
the church is in deep kimshi. we all know that.
many of us are looking for outlets to vent our frustrations and ask dangerous questions. we band together to try to figure things out. most of those i read are dedicated to transparency, to honesty. they have no desire to destroy the church. most post-moderns i know are not desirous of disbanding anything, let alone turning people from faith.
We aren’t rebellious.
We aren’t troublemakers.
We aren’t independent.
We aren’t crazy or weird.
And we aren’t church-hoppers!
Some have found community and connection with others to share their journey. Bob Hyatt has a pub church and Scott Williams has a club church. Many others have simple church, organic church, or house church.
I reread Dan Kimball’s post about reality church tonight. I am still wishing for a different ending to that sequence.
We are at an in-between place. On Sundays, my husband and I often have a “state of the union” discussion which frequently turns to church. Where should we fit?
We go to a local community church on Sunday mornings. It still seems like the right thing to do for the kids. So we go. Attending, but not belonging. Dissatisfied, but not critical. Just longing for something else.
I have been thinking about robbymac’s post about being a burr under the saddle in order to instigate change. We’ve been there, done that, got crushed.
I have come to accept the aloneness of this time and place.