Now that I am a church shopper (okay, I visited one church in early August), I have given some thought to what people look for in a church and why.

I think that looking for a church to join and become a part of is completely different than looking for a service to attend.

If you are looking for a church to join, then you look for a vision or purpose that matters to you, a leader you respect, and people that you enjoy being around.

If you are looking for a service to attend, the only thing that matters is if the service is of enough value to your spiritual life to continue attending.

I know that leaders find it frustrating when people choose to just attend services rather than get involved.

That is what is confusing to me right now.  I honestly cannot see myself throwing my life and heart into any of the local churches.  So then what?

Maybe it’s like dating after a divorce – no one really wants to start dating at 40, but you have to squeeze back into the miniskirt and get back out there if you are ever going to get married again.

Geez that’s depressing.