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Entries from March 2008

Missional Monday

March 31, 2008 · 2 Comments

I think the essence of being missional is seeing people the way that God sees them and truly hearing them. I would like to share a couple of quotes today that express that sentiment.

Brian at Just an Apprentice shared this thought…

“But what does it mean to see the world the way God does? Garber says that in biblical imagery, it takes people with ears to hear, and eyes to see. It takes people who know that to know–in a deeply biblical sense–means to be responsible, and that to be responsible means to care. People who “get it” understand that deeply Christian discipleship is marked by learning to see the world the way that God does, to know the world the way that God does, to love the world the way that God does.”

Daniel Tidwell at Jesus Manifesto gave this example about listening in a way where we truly hear the other person…

“Yesterday I had a conversation with some friends. In the middle of our time together one member courageously brought forward a question about our time together. She reminded us of how she had opened a topic for all of us and had been met with silence. We all remembered being moved by her openness with us and we all remembered our own failure to enter with her into a place of pain and transformation. Without telling her story here, I can say, that she struggled with a pattern of being responded to with deafening silence in her life. It took a lot of courage, passion, and humility for her to stop being silenced and come back to us and ask us to face how we had shared in that pattern of suppressing her voice.”

Brad Brisco shared this quote about listening as an expression of hospitality…

“Listening is always involved in hospitality. The most gracious attempts we can muster are meaningless if we do not actually hear the stranger. Listening is the core meaning of hospitality. It is something we can give anyone and everyone, including ourselves. It takes only a few minutes to really listen.”

Categories: missional

Sunday Revival

March 30, 2008 · 7 Comments

An inspiring article…

Scot McKnight shares about living the Jesus Creed. I appreciate that a scholar/theologian like Scot lives his faith. It is reflected in his writing.

Interesting discussions…

In the previous week’s links, there were quite a few discussions about the gender of God. This week I came across several posts about gender roles.

Who made up the idea that there is some vast conspiracy to feminize men and the church, and where is the evidence that this is occurring?

Douglas Groothuis questions the idea of the Christian men’s movement.

The last couple of posts at Abandon Image have been looking at gender roles and equality with most of the input coming from the complementarian perspective.

    Jenny Baker wrote a welcome response about the so-called feminization of the church.

    “We need to allow the difference debate to draw us closer together in co-operation and understanding not enclose us in stereotypical boxes. We need to work to break down barriers, challenge each other towards wholeness and rediscover the complementarity that God intended for us.”

    Church stuff…

    An awesome discussion here on the post, Losing My Religious Security Blanket.

    Some related links on that topic…

    • A thoughtful response by Andy Moore
    • An alternative view which I respect from Susan
    • Additional thoughts from Jeff
    • Valuable criteria for choosing a healthy church from Brad

    On the topic of ugly church issues…

    This is likely only the beginning of the storm to be created by Peter Enn’s dismissal from WTS. Expect to see plenty of discussion concerning the dismissal and the issues surrounding it which have to do with how scripture is interpreted and what is involved in inspiration and inerrancy.

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    Just in case you missed this…

    A creative remix of C. Michael Patton’s diagram mapping emergent orthodoxy.

    (ht Jesus Creed, image Blue Like Elvis, original Arthur Boulet)

    ~

    I’ll close today with this prayer/song.

    (ht Marko)

    Categories: links

    Losing My Religious Security Blanket

    March 26, 2008 · 79 Comments

    I have been putting off writing this post. I am afraid it is overly transparent.

    When we first decided to leave our CLB, I remember crying to my husband, “I don’t want to be churchless!”

    The plan was that we would recover from the spiritual abuse, we would hang out at the local community church for awhile, and then we would become involved in some church thing that was amazingly awesome.

    My underlying belief was that somewhere along the way we would discover what this amazingly awesome church thing would be. I have learned plenty by reading about the stuff that other people are doing. I have been happy for them and sometimes wondered if our church thing might be like theirs.

    In the meantime, we have been hanging out on the fringes of house church and the local mega-church. I felt like I needed some sort of religious expression to define myself spiritually. Plus, I believe in community and gathering.

    In spite of trying to stay positive, I find my disillusionment growing. Maybe it is time to let go.

    Last week drove it home…

    • I told the house church organizers that we think what they are doing is great, but we aren’t likely to participate.
    • Then I tried to politely explain to the lady from the church that we aren’t interested in contributing to the building campaign.
    • Next I tried to tell one of my best friends why The Truth Project isn’t really where my heart is right now (which btw automatically makes me sound like a less-than-stellar Christian).

    All of this pushes me toward what I have feared and avoided - a churchless faith.

    What am I afraid of?

    • What if I’m wrong?
    • What if I backslide?
    • What if there is no substance to my Christian walk?
    • What if I lead my kids and other people away from knowing the Lord?

    When I read Barna’s latest categories, I classified myself as an intermittent blender, but I knew that I was on the verge of being unattached.

    The article said this about the unattached, “they tend to be relatively isolated from the mainstream of society, tend to be non-committal in institutional and personal relationships, and typically revel in their independence.”

    Yep, just what I was afraid of.

    This isn’t where I expected to be.

    Maybe there is a way to develop spiritual connections outside of organizationally generated relationships.

    Would God lead me away from my dependence on the forms and structures of gathering into something undefined and unpredictable?

    Or am I already halfway down the slippery slope?

    Categories: being a disciple · church · the journey

    A Good Night of American Idol

    March 26, 2008 · 10 Comments

    I tell you, some of the best music came out of the late 70’s.

    You should’ve been there. ;)

    Best of the night

    Best artist of the season

    Not my favorite song, but another great performance.

    The best artists often don’t win on this show, but usually they do as well or better than the winners.

    Categories: miscellaneous

    Google Me?

    March 25, 2008 · 7 Comments

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    One of these things is not like the others.

    Categories: blogging

    Missional Monday

    March 24, 2008 · 2 Comments

    What we’ve done to make sure that discipleship is taken seriously is embed within the covenant of each group a certain set of practices. The problem with most communities of faith is that they are confessional—they’re saying the right things, but they don’t address behavior.

    So what we did is develop a set of practices designed to produce embodied values in the lives of our group members. And we called those practices TEMPT—

    • Together we follow
    • Engagement with Scripture
    • Mission
    • Passion for Jesus
    • Transformation

    They have to move from being Bible studies and prayer groups to being mission agencies. And they need to take seriously the idea of a common set of disciplines that begin to form them and shape their culture.

    But the main thing is for people to just get out—and I say this with all love and respect—just get out of the house. It’s too safe in our houses. We need to start inhabiting the places where other people inhabit. If you can pull off “church” in a third place, in a place where people go to spend their spare time, you will be forced to contextualize your message and get away from the bad three-chord choruses and stuff like that.

    (Alan Hirsch)

    I am re-imagining simple church that places a whole-life, missional, counter-cultural, Jesus-following ethos at the very center of its gathering and intentional discipleship processes.

    (Roger Thoman)

    Categories: Uncategorized

    Sunday Revival

    March 23, 2008 · 4 Comments

    This is exactly how I felt since November with tax season approaching, then suddenly here in January, and still finding myself behind the curve in March.

    Friday was Good for me because I finally dropped my shoebox off at the accountant (not really a shoebox - it’s kind of an inside joke for people who work in accounting). I was about a month behind schedule this year which meant an extra month of the burden of getting it done looming in the background of my life.

    Now I just have to catch up on the things I let slide in the meantime. I already warned the kids that “things will be different next week.” How trite. Hopefully there will be a positive side to that statement as well.

    I am sorry that there are emails and comments that I haven’t responded to, especially in the last couple of weeks. Things that I don’t respond to immediately tend to get lost in the shuffle and forgotten. Sometimes it is the things that I want to give some thought to that end up lost along the way. If you are one of those, please don’t take it personally. I am more scattered than I want to be.

    A few links for this week

    A most powerful Easter post.

    Things I shared with my family

    The link to the awareness test has popped up in lots of places this week. Everyone in my family is unaware.

    The other thing that I shared with my family was Brant’s joke. We have listened to it repeatedly, and now we just skip the joke, go straight to the whale part and laugh with Brant.

    Interesting discussions

    I have enjoyed the discussion on Mini-church Done Badly. The quotes came from interesting articles and posts that I read this week.

    • Frank’s quote is from his interview with Dan Kimball.
    • Roger’s is from an excellent post on dealing with the downside of simple church and rethinking simple church with a missional emphasis.
    • Alan’s is from an interesting article about small groups, discipleship, and missional community.

    Another topic of discussion this week has been about the gender of God.

    • Marko’s post on male pronouns referring to God generated a fascinating discussion.
    • Julie responded to that discussion on her blog.
    • Erin also wrote about the pronouns we use for God. I loved her suggestion that perhaps we should use they sometimes instead of he and him.
    • I think that the discussion about Jesus-is-my-boyfriend worship is very influenced by our images of the gender of God.
    • Important thoughts on worship by Jon Reid, Worship Porn.

    The book, The Shack, turned the image of God as a white male on its head. This was a challenge for some people who read the book. This sentence from a recent post by Paul Young demonstrates his willingness to play fast and loose with gender pronouns for God.

    “I love just being with Papa, knowing that he knows, even before I say anything and yet respectful as she waits.”

    The post itself is a vulnerable explanation about the misunderstanding and accusations that have been directed towards Paul as a result of writing The Shack.

    The other thing I liked about this post is the thought that there are so many chapters yet to be written, not just for Willie and Papa, but for each of us as we spend time in relationship with God and learn from them and about them.

    Happy Easter!

    I am inspired by the thoughts of NT Wright which I have read so many places this week. Christ’s resurrection was the turning point in history, the inauguration of new creation, the beginning of God’s project to bring the life of heaven to earth. May we learn and continue to live in the reality of resurrection.

    Categories: links

    Mini-church Done Badly?

    March 20, 2008 · 52 Comments

    “I’m not really a proponent of house churches, since most of them are quite insipid in my opinion.” (Frank Viola)

    “We can talk a lot about a 24/7, Jesus-following lifestyle, but the reality is often that the only real change is that we gather in a small, participatory gathering rather than a large, stage-oriented one.” (Roger Thoman)

    “Often our small groups in our houses are run like mini-churches, aren’t they? We do the same thing we experience on Sunday, but it’s just bad. We have a mother and son combo on the guitar, and the Bible study is never quite as good as the pastor’s sermon. It’s a back up. It’s just mini-church done badly.” (Alan Hirsch)

    What do you think about this? Is this an inevitable outcome? If not, what specifically makes the difference?

    Categories: church

    Hit the Wall

    March 18, 2008 · 34 Comments

    Wow, I didn’t see that one coming.

    Reading, blogging, and thinking about church has been like my hobby for the last couple of years. I have been sincerely interested in the things that I read about.

    Today, I suddenly feel done with it.

    It feels a little scary, because I should be interested. I wonder what it might be like to just walk away.

    I’m not upset or frustrated, just suddenly disinterested. Blah, blah, blah.

    I don’t really want to quit blogging. I would really miss the interaction. But church has been mostly what I write about.

    Today, I thought that I could tell you about the fact that I tried brown beer for the first time in my life. It was much better than I expected, quite smooth.

    Or I could write about the challenge to pastors that I read this morning. Have you really done your job if your congregation isn’t equipped and capable of functioning without you? That is kind of interesting.

    At the moment, I don’t really care about how anyone does church.

    Maybe I’ll feel different about it tomorrow.

    Disclaimer: I really am okay. This isn’t a cry for help or a threat to quit. It is just kind of a pause and perhaps a warning of a sharp turn ahead.

    Categories: church

    Missional Monday

    March 17, 2008 · 7 Comments

    A missional order is a community committed to the practices of a rule of life. The rule of life provides a framework for the rhythm of the community. The rhythm of life is both inward and outward, formation and mission.

    There are several posts that I want to connect for this week’s Missional Monday, framed in thoughts from Dan’s post, Getting More Out of Communal Practice-ing. If this is of interest to you, please follow the links to read each of the posts in context.

    Dan observes that more and more communities have adopted some form of practice-based rhythm to enhance their spirituality and missional formation and are experimenting with time-tested Benedictine rhythms or lower-bar versions of traditional communal practices.

    He concludes:

    In an age where the average Joe or Jane is so agenda-challenged, we probably need to settle for communal practice-ing arrangements that may well appear to be lower-bar versions of covenant community or missional Orders. But my guess is that discipleship is being enhanced nonetheless by such accessible rhythms of life. And these expressions may well be seeding the ground for the growth of deeper expressions of an Order-ed life on mission yet to be seen.

    Examples of a Rule of Life for a Missional Order:

    From Len:

    Here is the statement we are working with as we look at initiating a missional order. MORPH means on a weekly basis we covenant to be:

    Missional – I will engage in some noteworthy activity that engages and/or enriches my neighborhood or community or city (or world if traveling).

    Other-centered – I choose to bless two people in some conscious act of goodness or generosity; at least one person outside my own church community.

    Replenishing – I will join with my triad or quad in reading at least five chapters of a NT book, two chapters of an OT book, and at least one chapter of a spiritually-edifying book or article. I will learn to rest as an expression of God’s gift of Sabbath.

    Prayerful – I will quiet my soul and spend one uninterrupted hour with God in prayer. I will also pray the Office at least one time per day and if possible meet to pray with someone or pray over the phone or Internet. I will seek to live prayerfully that I might partner with God in His work in and around me.

    Poetic – I will seek simplicity and beauty in all that I do, understanding that God seeks to create in me the image of His son as a unique expression of His fathering. I will seek to love and rejoice in God’s world as He loves and joys in it.

    Hospitable – I will extend or receive hospitality on two occasions (at least once with my church, and once with non-believing friends or with an individual in my home or neighborhood or in a Third Place).

    We also agree to participate twice a month in our triad, holding one another accountable to this rule.

    From Christine Sine:

    Though everyone involved in MSA will never live in residential communities, we recognize that there is a need to foster a sense of shared spirituality and commitment in order to accomplish what God has called us to be and do.

    As a result we want to encourage followers of Jesus to work towards:

    1. A redeemed (restored) relationship to God through

    a. Regular individual prayer

    b. Scripture study

    c. Times of listening in solitude (meditative prayer)

    d. Regular corporate worship

    2. A redeemed (restored) relationship to God’s community through

    a. The practice of a common life with other followers of Christ

    b. Service in the broader community

    c. Hospitality and celebration

    d. Solidarity with the marginalized

    e. Economic stewardship that encourages mutual concern

    3. A redeemed relationship with our own inner being through

    a. Meditation and contemplation

    b. Confession of sins

    c. Spiritual formation

    4. A redeemed relationship with God’s creation through

    a. Responsible ecological stewardship

    b. Connection to the God revealed through creation

    Dan brings up the idea that perhaps questions would be more useful in developing and defining the practices of our Rule of Life:

    Core questions reinforce the value of core practices
    The concern I have is over how readily I see leaders deflecting the harder work of discernment away from groups by giving them ready-made practices. I’m beginning to wonder if what we really need are core questions, rather than simply core practices. With core questions, every participant and group is provoked toward the work of discernment, which in itself can be transformative. So, my vote at present is for practices backed up by core questions.

    Examples of questions that could be adapted in the process of developing a Rule of Life:

    From Makeesha, A New Kind of Question:

    • “how are you touching lives outside your faith community?”
    • “how are you doing as a community in showing people the tangible love of Jesus?”
    • “how often have you seen Jesus this week in the poor, marginalized, confused, hurting, sick, dying…?”
    • “is your community being hospitable, generous and kind to those in the community who do not attend your church?”
    • “how have you invested in your neighborhood recently?”

    From Sky Jethani at Out of Ur:

    • How do we grow people?
    • How do we equip people and release them to serve outside the church/institution?
    • How do we inspire more people to go?
    • How many programs have other churches started that we can help support?
    • How many people have a committed relationship with another brother or sister in Christ?
    • How do we equip people to grow independent of the institution?
    • How much revenue can the institution give away?
    • How few buildings, pastors, and programs are necessary for God’s people to have time and energy to engage the community?

    This core question from Peggy, the virtual abbess:

    • Is what I’m about to do/say (or not do/say) going to lead me to keep covenant or break covenant with God and others?
    • Whose best interest am I really looking out for at this moment?

    Categories: missional